“The Thing” about loving your colleague at work

In Love on January 3, 2009 by Petr Bokuvka Tagged: , ,

In one episode of Ally McBeal, John Cage defends a couple who sue their employer because they were fired for dating, as dating was against corporate policy. There is a very interesting thought in this episode. If you get up at say six a.m. and go to bed at ten p.m., you spend 16 hours awake, of which nine to ten hours on average are spent at work. That is more than one-half of your day. Where should you meet new people of the opposite sex? Workplace is one of THE places.

Some people say that dating a colleague is not a wise thing, the most logical argument (for me, that is) being that you can’t be the whole day in the same office building or wherever you work with the person you share an apartment with, or with the person you go on dates after work.

Yeah. Tell it to your heart, wise guy. 🙂

There are things that are way more tricky. The thing is that you have to clearly distinct between a colleague/colleague drink after work and a date-date. Everybody goes to have a drink. So it gets you thinking because she is of course the most special person in the world, you don’t want to be pushy and yet you don’t want it to be just one drink-after-work out of many she had before.

How does a scenic flight sound? A twenty-minute scenic flight around Brno with Herbst Aero costs around CZK 2,000, which is roughly some $100. A helicopter ride around downtown NYC can be just as unique.

The thing is that if you want to tell her something personal, it is really tough and it is always you who has to “forget work for a while” because “now were are personal”.

The thing is that you can’t tell her “I want to go out with you” while standing in line for a copy machine. Ironically, the thing is that you can say the very same thing to a girl you have just met at a 24/7 laundromat or copy place. So you arrange a scenic flight for her, which says from the very beginning that you do. But since she might hate planes, you must spoil the surprise right from the start.

You gotta think a lot, not much room for spontaneity, because if you mess this up, you either mutually agree upon no-big-deal and let’s-forget-that policy, or you gotta start reading job offerings in newspapers. Screw it. I don’t care.


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